The point is to trust yourself that you have all the tools necessary to design the life you want. You are familiar with an old statement “ we are our worst enemies,“ and having a healthy dose of discipline helps silence the voices that otherwise would prevent you from moving forward and it will flex your muscles for the times when you face the “naysayers.”
1.Build a morning ritual(s) and stick to it
It will be tough.
But then, again, anything worthy of your time will be.
This ritual is one of those that give back. Period.
You can design almost anything about your day, which includes the way you start your day. Start experimenting about what would be the desired action for you to launch the day and stick to it. Running, writing, being silent, reading, analysing your dreams, dancing butt naked to Prince or Chaka Khan (yeah, that works too, trust me )
No, reading emails and checking the Instagram doesn’t cut it. You should start the day with a question “ what can I do for myself today “ before jumping on to “ what can I do for my family .“
Start the day with you. And start as early as you can and go ahead and be as eccentric as possible.
As a result, you have begun the day with success; you have accomplished something at the very beginning of the day.
2. Organise the “To Do List “
Continue the day with list making.
I do also have one that is “ To Don’t Do List” to shake up the things a bit.
Do remember that getting everything done is not possible, so take it easy. You should go for progress, not perfection.
My recipe is to answer the next questions:
1. What can I do for myself today ( already tackled upon raising )
2. What can I do for my family today ( family can take many forms, close circle of friends or pets or neighbours you care about )
3. What must be done today for my career and outside interests?
4. What is “ important” and what is “urgent.”
5. What, if anything on the list is neither “necessary” or “critical”.
This should help you not having (huge) freakouts at the very beginning of the day if you are prone to those.
3.Create the time for yourself
One word: Resilience.
You might be building a company or starting a one-woman show, the best thing to do like a woman who aspires to a certain level of life quality as a result of hard work is to craft time for yourself. Whether that might be having a home spa, dancing by yourself to your favourite song, outdoors lunch ( particularly relevant if you work from home ).
4.Analyse and reset the day
“What went well ?” is another question that I ask myself by the end of the day, but I do not shy from any other possible setback that has happened during a given day. Moreover, sometimes, I do hit the bed without thinking.
Contrary to popular belief, a setback is necessary; it leads to progress; it is a learning curve. So stop beating yourself up for not progressing, and what might feel like hitting the wall can be a result of not stepping back to assess the situation.
It is nice to have a supportive circle that you trust that can help you see things from different angles.
Don’t give into low energy situations by overthinking it; you should act upon it, tackle it.
Think about what will you do differently.
Reset the day, and start over again with a different angle on the argument if you expect a different result.
Overall, I work on allowing my brain to function and be trained to access the problems and create solutions by having minimal list making, by changing the rules, by breaking the rules.
The last thing that I would want to is that, as a creative, my brain gets lazy before my 90’s.
Have that in mind. List making and rules will help when you are on the turning point of changing the old habits when you should get more disciplined to be able to go through the transition period; it is the best way of keeping yourself in check.
However, it can as well create boredom, frustration and general brain laziness and list making dependence which leads to free will paralysis and weak decision-making performance.
The point is to trust yourself that you have all the tools necessary to design the life you want. This all could be summed in an equasion looking like this:
I DREAM + I SIMPLIFY +I RELEASE + I TRUST = INFINITY